Curly Girl Diaries: The Introduction of Jackie Goneze
My name is Jackie and im a “Curly Girl.” What does that mean?…It means that I am one of the most powerful consumers in today’s market spending over $600 Billion dollars annually. Here’s a question you didn’t know you wanted an answer to… What does being Natural mean today? I’ll tell you what I think it means, and by all means necessary correct me if I’m wrong or add something that I missed. From what I have observed, being natural means accepting who are you are as you were made to be. It means trying something new because you just felt like it. It means following a trend just because you can. Being a Natural haired girl means a lot to large and growing amount of young and old woman alike, today.
To my knowledge the last time it was socially acceptable to embrace our kinks and curls was during the era of the black panthers, but the 80’s and 90’s rolled in and everyone wanted the beautiful creamy crack influenced straightened hair that R&B singers would rock in their sultry music videos, all over again. That’s what I call a trend. That doesn’t always say that an individual doesn’t love what they have/had. It’s just that ‘Everyone else is doing it’. And you can find that among naturals today. And keeping up with trends may sometimes be a complicated thing to do, but I don’t think this is going away for awhile, especially when this trend speaks volumes.
Now, they are naturals out there, like me who simply did it because they just could and felt like it at the moment. Anyone who sees me regularly can vouch that my hair changes like the weather in spring does (think New York City, where you can get all four seasons in one week and if we’re ‘lucky’ sometimes in one day). It just happens that the same time you want to big chop (Chop all the chemically manipulated hair off in one sitting), or accidentally transition (giving your hair a break from all the chemical manipulation maybe because you feel too lazy to get it done; like me), everyone else seems to be natural as well. Now from this moment, the meaning of being natural can definitely evolve as it has for me. It’s no longer something I did just because I felt like it at the moment (the fact that I am scissor happy when it comes to my hair is slightly being overlooked aha!) it has become my crown. It reminds me that what I have been blessed with is something I should embrace. And some people go natural with that in mind already but others take time to get to that point and I will be honest, it took a while for me to get to the point because I felt socially ugly.
Talking to my fellow curly headed beauties I learn that no matter what it meant there was always a moment where they felt unsure and slightly out of place because it was something unfamiliar despite the fact that this is ours naturally and ours alone. What it means to young Kings today is something that caught my attention even more. At my University, I decided to attend a natural hair day event and to my surprise the amount of Brothers in there were abundant. As the event went on, a friend of mine, sitting two rows behind me raises his hands to make a statement of his dislike of weave. He was then, immediately reprimanded for his comment by an emotional naturalista. She stood up and said boys make her feel as though she is not pretty enough because the cat calls that would be ever so evident of attraction had ceased. My friend then stood up to say, how could young men as himself know that a naturally coily, kinky, curly headed girl be beautiful if she didn’t think so herself, and if he wasn’t raised with that idea of beautiful? Now best believe that shut home girls’ mouth up so quickly. I went from walking down the block and hearing the disgusting cat calls to being called ‘Sistah’ and ‘Queen’ and back to disgusting cat calls of course but I don’t think it should tell a female your hair is okay as such because you’re being noticed. And Vice versa.
What being natural means today is that it is now your own personal choice on how you embrace yourself at the current moment. It’s about being able to accept versatility and using it to your advantage. It’s waking up and knowing the best outfit is you. It’s deeper than the crowns on our heads but for now we’ll keep glorifying the jewels.
My name is Jackie and this is an introduction to my story..staytuned for all of the latest in natural hair health and beauty products!
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